Where Have All the Young Men Gone?

April 5, 2011 | In: Feminization of men, Manly virtues, Real Men, Sissification of American Men, cavemen, pussy men

As little as twenty years ago, by the time a male teenager reached the age of eighteen, he was considered a man. It used to be that by age eighteen, men have graduated high school and either have set their sights on a future career in a trade, or are aspiring to attend college in pursuit of a career and of course great interests in partying and chicks. But something happened in the mid-to-late 1980s — here in New York anyway.

Up until that time. the legal drinking age in New York was eighteen — hell, I don’t want to date myself, but me and my buddies started to hang around bars when we were sixteen — I even landed a job at a local bar as a bouncer at sixteen.  OK, but you might say, “Yeah but drinking in a bar at sixteen or even eighteen doesn’t make you a man.”

Not that drinking in of itself made me or my friends men, but we were perceived as men and acted accordingly. We all worked/and/or went to school. We didn’t live with our parents until we were 30 or 35, we all lived on our own. I think perception was the key. Today an 18 year old teen is not perceived as an adult – he’s considered still “just a kid”.

Sure there are plenty of 18 -20 year old men that are responsible and have drive. But there are probably way more whiners and “kids” that have no ambition, still flop around on skateboards and play video games 24/7.

It’s no wonder that women think of themselves as superior to men. Young women are taught o strive harder to “keep up with the guys” — but when reality sets in, they have accomplished more than the guys by their mid-twenties and now the guys have to ditch the skateboard and video games and catch up. They are getting pushed around by women and they don’t like it (OK, maybe some men like it).

I know one parent in particular that does not allow their 15 year old son to ride his bicycle on the street — and it’s not a very busy street. I said to her — what the hell are you doing – in a year the kid is going to have his learner’s permit and you won’t let him leave the yard.

There are building blocks on the way to adulthood and manhood – one step at a time and one of the steps is to instill confidence and let him grow so that others think of him and perceive him as a true man.

Deep-six the skateboard and act like a man.

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